Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

I'm not saying this is true for all black females. but it seems like it for some. a lot of black girls at my school will say "ew, look at her nappy ***" or "she needs to get a perm". shouldnt black women be proud of their "natural" and not "nappy" hair instead of trying to fit in, or whatever the reason is for getting relaxers?

I'll be honost, I'm black, and I get perms, and I have been one of the people to say those things. but i have, in a way, grown out of that. i hate getting perms because it takes my hair out, but I still have long thick hair and dont want it natural because it will be all over the place and i dont want to cut it either. i'll probably start pressing it or something.

anyways, back to the point. what i'm saying is. why do you think that some black females find it unattractive for other black females to wear their hair natural? i cant remember why i thought so.

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

heck yea! i remember when i used to where my hair in a fro, everyone was looking at me as if the never saw hair before!

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

i think that people in general look down on things different than themselves. this could be due to thinking that their own way is the best and therefore only way of doing things (such as my dad). or it could be that if they insult you first then they won.

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

I wear my hair natural and people often tell me I have beautiful hair.

A black woman wearing her hair natural doesn't = kinky or "nappy"

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

These women suffer from self-hatred. They are ashamed of the way their hair grows naturally. We all have to stop and think, "what's wrong with the way God made me?"

Of course the answer is "NOTHING"!

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

I love natural hair and I wore my hair that way before, I am permed now I have thought about going back natural... truthfully the only negative comments I ever go were from family memebers

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

Well, it can be due in part to the images we get from the media of what is beautiful (an answer I gave for another question). In trying to fit in to society, we lose who we are. When someone reminds of us who we are, i.e., wearing hair naturally, speaking in a native tongue, etc., we are slapped back into reality, and some of us do't like it. Also, people tend to be insecure about who they are, and will point out differences in others to feel better about themselves. In reality, what we don't like abut others is really what we don't like about ourselves.

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

Some sisters are NOT comfortable in their own skin or natural state. They do it for the same reason white women get plastic surgery, color their hair, tan their bodies etc.

It's all in your personal preference or because society... mainly TV and media has said this way is the right way 2 represent beauty.

Beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder, if you feel confident and beautiful INSIDE than you glow and attract people on the outside.

Loving ones self is the hardest lesson you will ever learn.

Just because someone wears their hair natural does not make them different.....It says they are whole and complete and know exactly who they are and don't need 2 change 2 fit in.

Ignorance is bliss, people laugh and talk about what they don't understand.

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

Your observation is amusing because not too long ago it was "wrong" not to wear your hair natural as a black woman. Funny how fads and opinions swing back and forth... don't let folks bother you. In 20 years their attitude will change again.

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

well i guess its cause society tells us that our hair is not beautiful.. i mean the popular images of women are ones with straight long hair and usually not kinky hair even though it is beautiful if you know how to take care of it. people jus need to stop hating themselves. natural hair can be so gorgeous. ive been looking at this natural hair site and the texture natural black hair can bring out is jus amazing and you can do anything with it. my hair is natural but im half italian so it isnt really kinky but i dont straighten it i jus let it be wavy/curly

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

i think they are jealous. i wear my hair natural, and i get dirty looks from blacks and whites. i used to be self-conscious about it b/c of what other ppl thought, but i learned how to take care of and style it myself. it's a statement that not all black women can make. jealousy!

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

There is really no catch-all reason for why people do this - everyone is different. Some potential reasons may include:

- In our communities we are typically taught that girls should get perms when they transition into womanhood. Natural hair is thought of as cute on little girls only. Older girls and women should "do something with it."

- Many of our parents sent us the message that natural hair was generally unpleasant by getting angry, frustrated, and maybe even making negative comments during "wash days" and/or pressing our hair on all special occasions.

- Some people just make fun of and make negative comments about others in general, and it's a "fill in the blank" situation, ie they will pick out anything to comment on.

- Some people just think natural hair doesn't look good. They like straight hair, and as with anything believe that others should think the way they do.

- Some may be buying into media images of attractiveness.

- Some may be saying it just for a laugh or easy pseudo approval from others.

There was a boy in my elementary school who constantly called a girl "n**** naps." His hair was also tightly coiled. I think he did it because it worked, that is it got her upset and aggravated and got laughs from other people. Again, I think this was a situation of picking out any characteristic that was an easy target because it was very uncommon in my school. I also had natural hair at the time and he never said anything to me, likely because it wasn't totally about the hair.

Hope this helps, Kaya

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Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

First and foremost it's sad to say, but I think most black women hate on each other just because they can. Any and everything they can find wrong with another black female whether it be the truth or not is fair game. It's so sad because as a people don't we have enough hatred coming at us externally? Why do we need the internal self hatred as well?

I say wear your hair however you see fit. If it works for you, that's all that should matter. Yes, having relaxed or straight hair seems to be more widely "accepted" than wearing our hair naturally. But don't ever let anyone tell you that you're any less of a person because of it. Be proud of who you are and the choices you make. Relaxed or natural - one is not any better than the other. It's just about what works for you. =)

Why do some black females seem to look down on other black females if they wear their hair natural?

Jealousy. They wish they were brave enough to do it :)

Seriously, it is not just black women. A lot of Asian women and white women are born with curly frizzy psycho hair (like mine). From speaking to other Asians, at least, she confided in me that it is a status symbol in her culture.

The straight look is the most accepted style as being neat and "done". But for the girls with natural hair who "rock it" and don't leave it in an unmanageable mess but really do style it, it looks great.

Love your curly hair! I love mine :)