Can anyone psychoanalyze this and actually know how to?

Me and a good friend of mine got in a argument over the net and i said many things that are rude and he said that it was degrading and he called me a racist I'm Ethiopian American and his Kenyan just because I say some people are dark,nappy hair, and other things but I said that about some one else and nothing to him I sent two messages explain how sorry I am but he never replied back to me so I called twice and he didnt pick up so I dont know what else is there to do I apologized and then I just stoped messaging him to give him time and its been quite a few days or possibly a week

if anyones kind enough to help me and i can email you more in detail

Thank you

Can anyone psychoanalyze this and actually know how to?

It probably doesn't have anything to do with who or what you are racially or genetically. As you've stated, you got into an argument and said things that were rude so that was basically the main point of contention. The good thing is, at least you admit that you were being rude and are trying to make amends by apologizing. For you it's just a matter of learning to think before you speak and not to get yourself, or let others provoke you, into getting riled up about things that cannot be easily solved and have no clear conclusions. As for your friend, we can only hope that he isn't so thin skinned as to put you off indefinitely and not let his emotions get the better of him. If he does, well... what has he gained and in the whole of the big picture, when you come right down to it, does any of this really matter? Hopefully he isn't overly distraught about all of this and his life isn't a total wreck. Maybe this is a test to see how good of a friendship this really is.

Whatever the case, as it so often happens when caught up in the heat of the moment, people become too emotional and can say things that are easily taken out of context whereby situations become blown out of proportion, emotions flair up giving way to misunderstanding and hard feelings, where nothing positive is ever achieved. Sure, you can psychoanalyze all you want but no mortal human carbon unit will ever really know how to because there is never going to be enough time for any solid correct answer in a limited life span that is filled with an infinite amount of lessons that are still waiting to be learned.

Can anyone psychoanalyze this and actually know how to?

Sure if you like to email me more info Mlconner@liberty.edu

Can anyone psychoanalyze this and actually know how to?

I am assumming you both are Black. Many Blacks are "self racist" and the lighter their skin, less kinky their hair, and the thinner their lips-in other words, the more white(European) looking they are, the more superior they are-a very racist attitude.You need to decide if you really like yourself as an African/Black American or not-you used the term Ethiopian American-my Black friends unanimously prefer either African or Black American.My impression is, your Kenyan friend appears more traditionally Black and by the terms you used, felt you were also including him-the terms you described above are considered derogatory by my Black friends. Bottom line , do you like being Black-if not, you ARE racist towards your own ethnic background and your friend felt towards him to?